Girl, Wash Your Face by Rachel Hollis
In an open, frank, and often funny collection, Hollis debunks twenty common lies we tell ourselves that hold us back from meeting our goals and living joyfully.
Self-sabotage will get you nowhere. I'm an Olympic-level self-saboteur, as I think most ambitious, goal-oriented women are. We create these narratives about how we're not good enough, strong enough, smart enough to succeed, but they are all lies. Second chances and continuing to try will eventually get you where you want to be. This is a big one for me. I'm usually an ‘all-or-nothing’ person; if it doesn't happen the first time, I struggle to come back to it. And, like a lot of creative professionals, I lose motivation in the middle of big, hairy projects. I like the freshness and excitement of a new idea, a chance to be better, do better on something totally different instead of sticking it out with the old idea. Taking another stab at something or buckling down isn't failure, it's how we get ahead.
Vulnerability is at the core of our strength. By examining the hard stuff, the low moments in our life, those times when we wished we would have stood up for ourselves, said something, made a different decision, told someone, we can create a different narrative for ourselves. If we can face the challenging things in our life, call them out, and examine them, we can weave them into our lives as part of our success story.
We don't have to be smaller to be accepted. This was a great point to reflect on during lockdown as our ability to fill a physical space is limited to our Zoom window. It's easy and tempting to go on mute, turn off the camera, be ‘less’ apparent. But Hollis got me thinking about how the common feminist tips on how to take up more space and reclaim your time aren't as helpful in our current situation. It's more relevant now that we make our voices heard, unmute, and let the camera capture the unpolished aspects of our lives. That's how we can come out of this more powerful.